Dumb Sh*t People Say….Part One


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“I heard exercising cures RA. You should just do more of that!”

And I heard if you shove your head far enough up your ass you can see your stomach!…

Okay, so that is a little harsh. But…not really.


If you do not live with chronic pain or a physically disabling autoimmune you can’t imagine what it feels like. You can’t google Rheumatoid Arthritis and immediately understand what it means to have it. You don’t know, well, until you know!


Long ago I stopped giving people the benefit of the doubt. Many (including my father) say I am too harsh and expect too much of people. But what I’ve learned is people just want to sound intelligent. People love to sound like they know what they’re talking about. It’s human nature to be superior. Lao Tzu, the founder of Taoism, once said “Those who know don’t talk. Those who talk don’t know”. The above statement is a prime example of this.

I realized that when people talk it is not because they care but so they feel better about themselves. They think that if they look up a few facts on the internet, regurgitate the information I give them, they sound caring. In reality, they just annoy me.

Yes, you’re partially right. Exercise does alleviate symptoms of RA, however, too much of it can have the opposite affect and do more damage than good. Why? Too much motion and repetitive motion exacerbates inflammation around the joints, causes the immune system to react and attack. I probably don’t have to mention that there is no cure for the keyword: chronic autoimmune condition. So, no, I can’t just exercise the RA away because too much of it can make my condition worse.


Hi, my name is Monica and I have RA.

Black and White Holo Nails | Nail Art


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Now that I have a clear jelly stamper (CJS) I am no longer scared of trying double-stamping! I can easily position stamps properly instead of just hoping it might work! The CJS seriously changed the stamping game in the nail art world.

I went with something simple today: black and white stamping over a light holographic polish. I hope you like it! The sun was setting but I think I still managed to capture the serious rainbow-ness of this Pipe Dream holographic polish!




holobwThat holo though…..

nobottlebwBase: Pipe Dream Polish Sonic Transducer

Stamping: born pretty store plate BP-L 0004 & clear jelly stamper (linked here and here), Konad Special Polish White, Black


Hi, my name is Monica and I have RA.

Grass Stains & Metallic Flowers | Nail Art


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I haven’t done a dry-brush look in a long time but the metallic flowers were sitting in the back of my brain since I last did silver ones with a purple gradient. I’ve got to say I really like how this came out. Completely different looks but somehow they work together well.

I had to re-do this because just as I started to take pictures I bumped by nails against the camera and my peelies base coat completely popped off! UNT Peel Off Base Coat does what it says! I thought about just photographing the peelies but my nails are so short the small remains look really weird!

I hope you like it!



flowers1flower2_edited-1BaseZoya Pippa, Formula X Nails White Out

Dry-BrushAmerican Apparel Parakeet, Milani (old formula) Mint Chip, Barry M Matte Cancun

StampingBundle Monster plate BM311Formula X Nails Platinum Prime, Mundo de Uñas Copper, Zoya Goldie

Hi, my name is Monica and I have RA.

Blue Marbling w/ Tool | Nail Art & Review


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Product provided for honest review.

I have not yet mastered the needle drag marble. For the most part, I get the design I want but I always scrape through the bottom layers leaving an unsightly nick to my bare nail.


marbletoolfullmarblingtoolI noticed Born Pretty Store a new marbling comb. I wanted to streamline a one-needle design which can be painstakingly long! The grip of this tool is easy  and the comb glides through polish easily. However, the needles are in a straight line so the polishes mix together too easily and I quickly lose the marbleized look. If the picks are staggered I could get a smaller, more detailed design which I usually prefer.


marbleBaseSinfulColors Midnight Blue

MarbleSinfulColors Rise & Shine, Why Not, Hazed

Tool: Marbling Comb ($3.98 here)


Hi, my name is Monica and I have RA.

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Blue, Blue and Blue Dots | Nail Art


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Asymmetrical dotticures are my second favorite look (after sugar-spins). I like that there is no pattern so I do not have to painstakingly measure the area between dots. They do not have to be perfectly sized to their neighbors and the eye plays tricks so the nail always looks the same as the others.

I hope you like it!






dots3BaseGlitter Gal Australia Bluemerang

DotsSinfulColors Why Not, Midnight Blue, Milani Power Periwinkle, Blue Print, China Glaze Purple Panic


Hi, my name is Monica and I have RA.

The Interesting Thing About Mother’s Day



Marmalade and SunsilkStrange fact: My cats have both been in my life longer than my mother.

We adopted Marmalade 14 years ago and Sunsilk, 13. My mother passed away 14 years ago.

If you were to ask me…would I trade the pets for my mom you are a cruel person.

I would give anything to have my mother back in my life. Twelve years was not a long enough time to get to know or appreciate her. But, if she hadn’t died then I would not have had Marmalade, Sunsilk, Affie or Saachi. I’m sure at some point we would have a pet it would have been a different one because the timing was different.

I wish I had the best of both worlds but of course, that was not possible. But no, I wouldn’t trade. That might make me a bad person but I’m a firm believer in things happening for reason and people/animals come into your life at the right time.

My mother protected and taught me. She was the best mom I could ask for. But, so were the pets. They taught me patience. They taught me responsibility and in their capacity they protected me.

Would I trade? No. Could I choose? No. I would be a different person if my mother lived or these animals were not in my life.

Hi, my name is Monica and I have RA.

Silver/Gold Gradient | Nail Art

I don’t mind the rain, when I’m in Washington state. However, I live in Washington DC and one week without sun is just wrong. Partially because I crave sunny, bright weather but also, I can’t take good pictures!

My apologies on the below picture…but I was craving doing my nails and this randomly popped into my head. Not sure about the ants; they were on the stamping plate and I’d never used them before!

I hope you like it!


silvergoldBaseFormula X Nails White Matter (a seriously great one-coater!)

GradientFormula X Nails Platinum Prime, Zoya Goldie

StampingPueen Cosmetics plate, Konad Special Polish Black


Hi, my name is Monica and I have RA.



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